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I lost my son Travis James Tipton 4/12/12 I am his mom Denis
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Re: I lost my son Travis James Tipton 4/12/12 I am his mom D
by Blossom » Fri Jun 29, 2012 6:58 am
well said.
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Re: I lost my son Travis James Tipton 4/12/12 I am his mom D
by mickie54402 » Fri Jun 29, 2012 9:15 am
Thanks Call I felt so bad for this lady she so needed help with some kind of meds.
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Re: I lost my son Travis James Tipton 4/12/12 I am his mom D
by Blossom » Sun Jul 01, 2012 7:11 pm
mickie?Denise...how are you travelling?
I just read through your posts again and a little thought came to mind. I read, and have experienced, that men and women grieve differently. When it is happening to you as a couple for the first time, there are no self-help books and few with first hand experience to help understand that there is no wrong to this. It's painful and all so confusing...our sudden loss of identity radiates out to our relationships...so hard. I recall sending my husband off to friends for a visit without me...he needed it, I needed it. We could not always 'see' what the other was feeling...nor could we meet each other's needs all the time. It's painful, it's distressing, but it's survivable. Hold on and take care today. I have not replied to your grief for your beautiful son...know that I am nodding with heart. Writing helped me - keep writing.
I just read through your posts again and a little thought came to mind. I read, and have experienced, that men and women grieve differently. When it is happening to you as a couple for the first time, there are no self-help books and few with first hand experience to help understand that there is no wrong to this. It's painful and all so confusing...our sudden loss of identity radiates out to our relationships...so hard. I recall sending my husband off to friends for a visit without me...he needed it, I needed it. We could not always 'see' what the other was feeling...nor could we meet each other's needs all the time. It's painful, it's distressing, but it's survivable. Hold on and take care today. I have not replied to your grief for your beautiful son...know that I am nodding with heart. Writing helped me - keep writing.
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Re: I lost my son Travis James Tipton 4/12/12 I am his mom D
by mickie54402 » Sun Jul 01, 2012 7:49 pm
I have had a hard 5 days seems like the waves come in and go out. It's just been hard the last 5 days just really sad and lonely and missing him so much. I just don't know where I belong I hate this feeling. All I want to say is I want my son back and I know I can't have that. I know all the right answers and I know this is going to take time. My husband admitted he knew he shouldn't go fishing and I needed him here but he wanted to go not to get away for me or the pain or any thing like that just that he and his friend do a fishing trip every year and he looks forward to it and he was only thinking of himself. He said he thought about it several times and knew he shouldn't go but talked himself into going by saying if he had other call me it would be ok. So it is what it is. I just have to find my old friends I use to rely on and reconnect with them and I have started doing that. So I will have a support system in place for when other things happen in the future that I have people I can fall back on for support.But it is just hard knowing that and dealing with this too. Then the anxiety hits and I want to climb out of my skin and that last all day some times well a lot of the time. Thanks for checking on me. Blossom
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Re: I lost my son Travis James Tipton 4/12/12 I am his mom D
by Blossom » Sun Jul 01, 2012 8:35 pm
"All I want to say is I want my son back ..." - I hear you. A big big hug to you. We are a chorus. You are not alone. If a little bitty tiny percentage of you is aware of needing and/or seeking support, then you are your own blessing. It will no doubt desert you at times, but I promise that it will be there then when you reappear to yourself. Take care.
("I want to climb out of my skin"...I know).
("I want to climb out of my skin"...I know).
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Re: I lost my son Travis James Tipton 4/12/12 I am his mom D
by heartbrokenca » Wed Jul 25, 2012 1:01 am
I am sorry for your loss. I lost my only nephew on August 4,2011. The pain is sooooooo oveerwhelming I wonder how it hasn't killed me yet. At first I had to remind myself to breath, because I would not realize that I am holding my breath! So I would exhale all the air in my lungs. And a moment later there I was short of air. I had forgotten to breathe again!! How is it possible to forget to breathe? He was my air, my life.
Today would have been his 19th birthday. He gets to celebrate it with angels in heaven. He was my parents' only grandchild. I have no children and my brother only had this child. He was our universe. He is gone. Our hopes and dreams went with him.
I am so glad you have other children and grandchildren. I know they each have their own place in your heart, but you get to watch the rest of yoru loved ones grow and exprience life. Hold on to those thoughts. The positive will help you heal and focusing on the tragedy will consume you if you let it.
My heart goes out to you. He is the last thing that I think about and the first thing that comes to my mind when I wake up. But now, I dont have to remind myself to breathe anymore. I just do. My heart feels heavy and at times I find myself searching in crowds for any one that would resemble him, his height, hair style/color, his eyes.... But I know this too shall pass.
We are only a breath away from our loved ones, Denise. Hugs and prayers to you and your family. Stay strong. You
Today would have been his 19th birthday. He gets to celebrate it with angels in heaven. He was my parents' only grandchild. I have no children and my brother only had this child. He was our universe. He is gone. Our hopes and dreams went with him.
I am so glad you have other children and grandchildren. I know they each have their own place in your heart, but you get to watch the rest of yoru loved ones grow and exprience life. Hold on to those thoughts. The positive will help you heal and focusing on the tragedy will consume you if you let it.
My heart goes out to you. He is the last thing that I think about and the first thing that comes to my mind when I wake up. But now, I dont have to remind myself to breathe anymore. I just do. My heart feels heavy and at times I find myself searching in crowds for any one that would resemble him, his height, hair style/color, his eyes.... But I know this too shall pass.
We are only a breath away from our loved ones, Denise. Hugs and prayers to you and your family. Stay strong. You
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