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Grieving Children's Rights (Could apply to anyone.)

Post by Karyl » Mon Jun 10, 2013 4:52 pm

Grieving Children's Rights
By Alan Wolfelt, PhD.

I have the right to have my own unique feelings about the death. I may feel mad,
sad or lonely. I may feel scared or relieved. I may feel numb or sometimes not
anything at all. No one will feel exactly like I do.

I have the right to talk about my grief whenever I feel like talking. When I
need to talk, I will find someone who will listen to me and love me. When I
don't want to talk about it, that's OK, too.

I have the right to show my feelings of grief in my own way. When they are
hurting, some kids like to play so they'll feel better for awhile. I can play or
laugh, too. I might also get mad and scream. This does not mean I am bad, it
just means I have scary feelings that I need help with.

I have the right to need other people to help me with my grief, especially
grown-ups who care about me. Mostly, I need them to pay attention to what I am
feeling and saying and to love me no matter what.

I have the right to get upset about normal, everyday problems. I might feel
grumpy and have trouble getting along with others sometimes.

I have the right to have "griefbursts." Griefbursts are sudden, unexpected
feelings of sadness that just hit me sometimes – even long after the death.
These feelings can be very strong and even scary. When this happens, I might
feel afraid to be alone.

I have the right to use my beliefs about my God to help me deal with my feelings
of grief. Praying might make me feel better and somehow closer to the person who

I have the right to try to figure out why the person I loved died. But it's OK
if I don't find an answer. Why questions about life and death are the hardest
questions in the world.

I have the right to think and talk about my memories of the person who died.
Sometimes those memories will be happy and sometimes they might be sad. Either
way, these memories help me keep alive the love for the person who died.

I have the right to move forward and feel my grief and, over time, to heal. I'll
go on to live a happy life, but the life and death of the person who died will
always be a part of me. I'll always miss this special person.

By: Alan D. Wolfelt, PhD.
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