His mates going to be a father.

[Crystl]

I am friends on facebook with my sons mates..
I knew one of them was getting married soon..got used to the idea after the initial pain that my son will never have that.

last night they announced they are expecting a baby..
due date the day before the anniversary of my sons death!!!!!!...

tears and shock! pain and sadness! regret and 'if onlys'!
My son will never have a child!!

this mate is the one my son had words with for not treating his (the mates) partner properly..this mate was aggressive and belittling to his GF..
I'm proud of my son for taking a stand and I think it made a difference..
I hope this couple will be as happy in the future as they are now..
but damn it stirs up the emotions!!

[Blossom]

I bet it's so hard to watch those milestones that should be your son's by proxy, Crystal.
This is weird...but I haven't bought 21st presents for my nephews and my son's friends. I just couldn't do it...just couldn't do it - mental block I couldn't even begin to touch... (wrong - I did buy one a pressy - forgot). They know I love them. The bitter comes before the sweet. Hopefully, today finds you in a space that can hold both. I have found that each little shock of the world moving on takes its toll, but there is a 'getting used to it' (Lanie) period before balance is restored. Well, balance is not quite the right word...nor acceptance...perhaps a way to live with change? I don't know....jury's out still.

[Crystl]

that would be a hard one to cope with too Lanie..lov and peace back to you

blossom...jury's still our here too..
it's just like, we start to think there's nothing else left that can hurt us after our children die but all the little niggles like this, and like Lanies sons GF, keep coming as time goes on to keep disrupting our journey through grief...
i know I don't make much sense but I guess there is no sense in all that's happened to us..
*group hug*