You are in my prayers, if you ever need to talk you can PM me, or post again and I will reply. There is no cure for your loss, but with time you,ll find forgiveness.
Love and Light,
When I first got on this site it wad hard when no one responded, I'm guessing allot of people read what people say, not knowing what to say yet, no one wants to be in this club, but unfortunately it's more common than I ever imagined.
I'm not sure how you reply for sure, I think you click on my name and add me as a friend then my e-mail pops up ( I think don,t quote me, but if anyone knows, please share) I really don,t have anything to hide, but I understand if some things want to be said privately. I'm a very outspoken person, sometimes to a fault.
I'm by no means an expert, from my experience everyone deals differently, I think what ever works for each person is fine, everyone is different. If you or your siblings decide to talk or share the details of your Mother's death it is your choice, no one knows your pain but you or people here. My experience is some days are good and others bad, I don,r know if it,ll be forever... I don,t believe some people know it's going to happen, if you did you would've stopped it as we all would, never blame yourself, and tell your siblings the same . None of you want to ever get to a place where your so sad that this could happen to any of you, talk to each other, if someone doesn't want to talk, hug, be together..Sunday lunch or dinner, call each other every day, not just now because it,s fresh, keep it going, if not every day, every other, pop in uninvited foe a visit, bring coffee.
I noticed there were sooo many people after the event, the phone wouldn't ringing! Then as time passed the phone stopped ringing slowly, friends that would only text( never actually spoke to me on phone) stopped. They will say " if you need something let me know" ...are we going to call them and say...hey will you listen? They should ask , but people don,t know what to say...they really don,t. I think if they only said " hey how are you feeling" , that would be fine. You will learn that you can,t control what people say or do. Don,t let what other people do control your thoughts, the road will be hard, but somehow you have to do whatever it is to go on. I don,t know what that is, but if I find out...I will share, I promise. Somehow be there for each other, bond like glue, just forever know she loved you all very much! She was just tired, I know she is sitting with God. I think everyone of these kids, Mother's, Father's, friends, every single one of these beloved souls took a one way ticket to heave. On all our bad days...think about that, it's the only thing that gets me through some days.
If you ever need to get anything off your shoulders, try and get on here or find a sibling. I will always pray for everyone here , do whatever you need to do to find peace safely.
Lots of Love and Light,