I heard very different versions from the coroner, police and the funeral home. I don't understand how I can get 3 different stories from 3 different people, and in return they would not let me see him. I understand I can't get "all the answers" but something consistent so I can get maybe a small peace of mind.
No, you do not need help! It was very insensitive for somebody, on here especially, to write that. I mean, technically we all could use some help but anyhow... :/iamjoesforever wrote:Are you kidding me, I need serious help? You can't actually believe I am the only person who has thought this.
When my partner passed away, I too needed to see his body. He drowned and it was also post-autopsy, but myself as well as ALL of his family members NEEDED to see him one last time. Because we found him in the water his body wasn't able to be prepared by the funeral home, hence we had a closed casket funeral.
For closure, as well because I was (crazy) convinced he faked his own death and he was alive and well (yeah :/ ), I NEEDED to see him lying there... in that state, horrors and all.
It's an image I couldn't shake for a long time. It still creeps in and haunts me but I accept it as part of this whole process. I do not regret it one bit! It was necessary for me.
It is normal to be curious and to this day I still want the full coroners report but haven't been able to bring myself to ask for it. (It's been over 2 years...) I may eventually get to the point where I let it go completely. I hope I do as more details of the event will not change the fact that he's gone.
Maybe you could just do the same. Perhaps you could just put it off, as it will always be there, and see how you feel at a later date. If there is still a need to see it in the future then maybe that's what you need to help you move forward.
Hope it helps... Big hugs and wishing you peace. <3
I miss the thoughts that design and build your mind
I miss the way you hold me close like vines
I miss you all the time - USS
Moving onward and upward.