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by Blossom
Sat Feb 28, 2015 6:49 am
Forum: Fathers and Mothers
Topic: what the ????
Replies: 10
Views: 3867

Re: what the ????

Sorry cmarie....I was hasty in my reply (heading off to work). Yes, cali, cellular memory - and that sudden visit sure does take a toll on my confidence.

Take care all, please.

Jan
by Blossom
Mon Feb 23, 2015 5:28 pm
Forum: Coping
Topic: Today
Replies: 6
Views: 2370

Re: Today

Oh cali, I hear you! Your poor boy. And poor you - my heart goes out to you. Sometimes I think we need so few crumbs of camaraderie, of heart sharing, to survive. Finding those crumbs or having them find us...as the years go by it's a long time between drinks. But the drink is sweet, no? (Oh dear, w...
by Blossom
Mon Feb 23, 2015 5:23 pm
Forum: Fathers and Mothers
Topic: what the ????
Replies: 10
Views: 3867

Re: what the ????

Ugh....didn't even sneak up on you. cmarie, for what it is worth.....this internal life of grief loses it's reality if it doesn't get an airing. And goodness, that airing can feel like a slam. This is my opinion only.Just a thought really. Hope you're ok. I didn't know or forgot that Liam had a Janu...
by Blossom
Mon Dec 29, 2014 6:24 am
Forum: For Siblings
Topic: Nearly 5.5 years now
Replies: 3
Views: 2160

Re: Nearly 5.5 years now

i am sometimes surprised to have survived, other times, not at all surprised.
i'm glad you have survived. Hoping that life is trickling into you.

Take care,
by Blossom
Wed Dec 24, 2014 7:35 pm
Forum: For Siblings
Topic: almost four years
Replies: 1
Views: 1473

Re: almost four years

Thank you for your kind thoughts. I hope you find a little bit of peace in the holiday season. It is good to 'see' an old forum member pop up - good to hear of survival!
by Blossom
Sun Dec 21, 2014 4:54 pm
Forum: Coping
Topic: Christmas
Replies: 5
Views: 2799

Re: Christmas

Oh, that last line! (me too). You got me thinking....I could say that I made that transition (a calm word for a very difficult thing) for a whole host of reasons. When I am mad at the world, my reason is because my son has been crammed into a space by the pressure of others. On another day, its beca...
by Blossom
Sat Dec 20, 2014 5:11 am
Forum: Coping
Topic: Christmas
Replies: 5
Views: 2799

Christmas

Hi It's been nearly five years since our son died. How hard was that first Christmas! No advice helped me...it was pure survival. Still, I liked to read about other's ideas - it gave me hope in the lead-up. On the second Christmas, I went for a walk - a long early morning walk by a river. I have obs...
by Blossom
Sat Dec 20, 2014 4:54 am
Forum: Fathers and Mothers
Topic: Forgiveness
Replies: 3
Views: 2009

Re: Forgiveness

I don't think it ever gets truly resolved....maybe the thing about being human is that there is no 'perfect' healing - that we have no true-north without contrast. That contrast may appear, no matter how short or weakened, to serve us in quite complicated ways. Sounds good, eh? I do not gain insight...
by Blossom
Tue Dec 16, 2014 4:44 am
Forum: Coping
Topic: Today...
Replies: 2
Views: 1661

Re: Today...

Cali....I have dropped out twice....welcome to Australia. Here is my last attempt at replying, and in brief. Let us become old ladies who feast at the smorgasboard of humanity, as it suits us! Here is your Christmas poem... We shall be careful / Michael Leunig We pray for the fragile ecology of the ...
by Blossom
Sun Dec 14, 2014 5:35 am
Forum: Coping
Topic: Today...
Replies: 2
Views: 1661

Today...

Today, at work, there was a young man sitting in a chair looking at his ipad. He looked like my son.....but I was walking past and I wasn't wearing my glasses. I walked past him a few times in the next hour and I CHOSE not to put my glasses on - I liked him just the way he was, all mine. I completel...