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by RubyCat
Wed Feb 27, 2019 5:47 pm
Forum: Coping
Topic: How everyone doing
Replies: 1
Views: 581

Re: How everyone doing

It's been a long while since my sister and dad died by suicide. The grief I experienced after my dad's passing was nothing like what I experienced with my sister. I have a lot more anger and avoidance the second time around. However, something that has never changed since my 1st loss is the vivid ni...
by RubyCat
Wed Mar 11, 2015 8:26 pm
Forum: News and Information
Topic: Opportunity to participate in an online research study
Replies: 0
Views: 6086

Opportunity to participate in an online research study

Hi all, I am conducting a research study that will examine attitudes toward suicide, perception of others’ attitudes toward suicide, and the perceived stigma experienced in adults who have lost someone close to them to suicide and attempters of suicide. I would like to invite anyone who would be int...
by RubyCat
Mon Oct 06, 2014 2:13 pm
Forum: * This Month *
Topic: Death anniversary. 3 years without my sister
Replies: 2
Views: 1922

Death anniversary. 3 years without my sister

Today my sister took her own life 3 years ago. I miss her dearly and my heart hurts like hell. She and I were so close in the end and I still can't believe she's gone. These next few days will represent the darkest days of my life. Yet I want to remember her for all the good memories. I am trying to...
by RubyCat
Sun Aug 31, 2014 1:05 pm
Forum: Newly Bereaved
Topic: My 26 year old first born killed herself 3 weeks ago
Replies: 7
Views: 5139

Re: My 26 year old first born killed herself 3 weeks ago

Hi Jill, My thoughts are with you today. I am so sorry that you have to experience this pain and loss and I hope that you can stay strong and take care of yourself. I lost my older sister almost three years ago. She suffered from a life-long battle with borderline personality disorder. I will never ...
by RubyCat
Sun Aug 31, 2014 11:59 am
Forum: Venting
Topic: I'm losing faith in what people say
Replies: 6
Views: 2834

Re: I'm losing faith in what people say

Thank you to all of you who responded and I am sorry for your loss as well. It's helpful getting a different perspective and I'm definitely not feeling as angry as I was a few months ago. Dawn - I'm sorry to hear that your pain has caused you to be driven to such a dark place but I am grateful that ...
by RubyCat
Thu Jun 26, 2014 11:57 pm
Forum: Venting
Topic: I'm losing faith in what people say
Replies: 6
Views: 2834

I'm losing faith in what people say

After my sister passed 2 and half years ago I really got into suicide prevention and took to heart everything I read about it. I learned about the myths and misconceptions people have about suicide and tried to become more self aware about my incorrect beliefs and change how I perceived it. I accept...
by RubyCat
Sun Aug 11, 2013 4:40 pm
Forum: Newly Bereaved
Topic: Confused
Replies: 3
Views: 1036

Re: Confused

I'm sorry for your loss Anita! That's a very difficult situation because it seems like you're in a limbo and complicates your grief even more. Sometimes attaching a name to the situation helps and other times it makes it more troubling. There were times I wished my sister's death was accidental and ...
by RubyCat
Sun Aug 11, 2013 4:17 pm
Forum: Coping
Topic: Testing the waters
Replies: 10
Views: 2240

Re: Testing the waters

I think it's pretty bold for someone to claim such a numeric value to "moving on" and calling it "normal", especially for a counselor. It could be true that he's an exception but I don't think it's ever as simple as applying the same timeline to everyone. Each situation is different and each relatio...
by RubyCat
Tue Aug 06, 2013 9:56 pm
Forum: Coping
Topic: Testing the waters
Replies: 10
Views: 2240

Re: Testing the waters

RIP, I'm sorry for your loss as well! That's a very difficult situation, especially when you feel you shouldn't break promises that you didn't think you'd have to live through. I agree with your counselor. I don't believe the only goal in life is to be in a relationship but I CERTAINLY don't think t...
by RubyCat
Thu Aug 01, 2013 1:57 pm
Forum: Miscellaneous
Topic: Afraid my dad will kill himself after my sister's suicide
Replies: 8
Views: 8025

Re: Afraid my dad will kill himself after my sister's suicid

It's not even two days later that I feel like a fool for my last post. I thought my dad has been getting better ever since his attempt last November but only to find out that he had another attempt just a few months ago. My mom and oldest sister did not tell me because they thought I would be better...